Do you suspect someone is experiencing domestic abuse?

If you know or suspect a family member, friend, or work colleague is experiencing domestic violence, it may be very difficult to know what to do.

Your first instinct may be that you want to protect your friend or family member, but intervening can be dangerous for both you and them. Of course, this does not mean you should ignore it – there are things you can do to help make them and their family safer. If you witness assault you can call the Police on 999.

If your friend is open with you and acknowledging the violence, this is a positive sign and an indication that they trust you. Try to keep in touch with them so that they don’t become more isolated. This is often a danger on an abusive situation. However, the decision to leave the relationship has to ultimately come from them, and can sometimes take several attempts before they leave the relationship for god.

Try to remind them that domestic violence is always the fault of the abuser.

Encourage your friend of family member to seek professional help and to prioritise their safety at all times. Try not to be impatient of judgemental and keep the lines of communication open at all times. You will be a lifeline to your friend of family member.

Remember that:

• Domestic abuse is a crime – it is NOT acceptable
• Domestic abuse is more common than you think
• Domestic abuse is very dangerous and could result in lives being lost
• Everyone has the right to live their life without the fear of violence or abuse
• The abuser is solely responsible for their actions, and the victim is NOT to blame

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